Had to be harsh with your horse? :/?

okay, so does the horse care if it hurts you? not if its kicking or being bossy your horse will respect and love you more if you become the boss of the horse just like a horse in the pasture they have respect for the boss horse its not cruel its either you have a 1000 pound animal hurt you or you make it have respect and in the end is better for both you and the horses relationship. use your head.